8 Ways to Survive Diaper Changes When Your Baby Hates Them

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Written by Tori Hamilton, BScN, RN, IBCLC, PMH-C

I am a registered nurse psychotherapist, IBCLC, and mom of four. I have additional trainings in psychotherapy techniques involving Internal Family Systems, Compassionate Inquiry, and Brainspotting. Please check out my other articles and join the email list for additional supports. To book sessions, visit my other website https://attunedtherapy.ca
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June 20, 2016

My son, who is 16 months old, hates diaper changes. He pretty much has since we brought him home from the hospital. Even when he was a newborn, he hated lying on his back and now that he is a force-to-be-reckoned-with-can-run-faster-than-the-wind toddler, the dreaded diaper change is even worse. We have just had to accept this fact and learn to make due as much as possible. Here are my tips to survive diaper changes when your baby or toddler hates them.

First off, Rule Out Medical Concerns

It’s important first to note that babies who struggle with reflux can appear to hate diaper changes. In reality, they may experience pain while laying on their back due to the regurgitation of acid. If this is the case, please talk to your health provider about possible treatment. You could also consider using a foam wedge during diaper changes (on the floor for safety), to keep your baby’s head slightly elevated to see if that helps. You may also want to have your baby looked at for breathing challenges or tongue tie.Β 

Stay Positive – They Can Smell Fear

No word of a lie, I swear my son can smell fear when I try to wrangle his stinky self to change his diaper. It’s hard to admit, but there has been far more than one instance where his shrieks and tantrums have pushed me to my parenting limit. Although venting has its immediate gratification, it won’t stop your baby’s exuberant behaviours. I have found that keeping an upbeat tone and adding a bit of humour into a full-fledge diaper-changing melt-down can help dissipate those feelings.

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Become As Efficient As Possible

Efficiency is key when it comes to changing your baby’s diaper. The more efficient you are, the less time it will take before your busy one will be up and running again – Which is pretty much all they want anyway.

Make Sure You Have Enough Space for Flailing

I don’t know about your toddler, but mine likes to flail. A lot. So much so, our diaper changing station on the dresser in his room has nothing on it, since anything near him during diaper changes will go flying.Β Diaper changes are so much easier when you are not worried about a leg knocking off the cream here or a hand grabbing the wipes there. Put a diaper change pad on the floor and Bob’s your Uncle.

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Keep Everything On-Hand

The last thing you will want to deal with when your baby is head to toe in fecal matter and acting like he’s getting branded with a hot poker is to be one wipe away from a clean bum. Always make sure you have plenty of wipes on hand, cream if you need it, and of course the diaper. Don’t forget the diaper! Unless of course if you have a dog like this… Then silagra vs kamagra you’re basically set for life.

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Use Distraction to Your Advantage

It goes something like this: “Hey, what’s on your feet? Are those monkeys on your feet? Where are your toes? Where’s your belly button? Can you clap your hands? What does a dinosaur say? Roar Roar that’s right!” Yep, you’ll feel like an idiot, but if you don’t have to listen to any more ear-piercing crying it will be worth it! Distraction at its finest.

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Give Them What They Want

I don’t know about you all, but my parenting style has changed a lot since my second child. Instead of always following the book on “what is best” for your baby, my husband and I follow more of a “what helps us survive” approach. It seems to be working thus far – We are both relatively sane and the kids are unscathed. So, if your toddler LOVES holding the remote and it is usually out-of-bounds, then for the love of all things holy, use that remote to its full advantage during diaper changes!

If All Else Fails, Change Them Standing Up

Now that my son is up and running, we often have to do diaper changes standing up. He tolerates them much more, but it can be tricky after bowel movements. Try it sometimeΒ – It takes a bit of practice but once you get the hang of it it’s actually easier because they’re not screaming and kicking at you the entire time! It’s a lot easier too if you have a second pair of hands.

Pray For Early Potty Training

I absolutely CAN’T wait until my son is potty trained! While it’s important to follow your child’s cues, teaching them early about toilet training can’t hurt, right? Here’s hoping that this special breed of babies we have that HATE diaper changes, will LOVE being out of diapers and go in a toilet (but hopefully not all the way in)!

I will take any prayers you have.

Seriously.

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Tips & Tricks for Diaper Changes

There you have it – 8 ways to survive diaper changes when your baby hates them! From a fellow mom with a toddler who thinks we are killing him slowly with each and every wipe, I feel your pain. Please know that you’re not alone and (hopefully) it will get better!

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8 Comments

  1. Julie @ Fab Working Mom Life

    I am 100% for “what helps us survive”! I still use the changing table cause it is easier on my back to have him my level and not be bent over him on the floor. But he is so wiggly and sometimes starts bucking the minute I lay him down. Sometimes I change him by the tub right before a bath, and he stays still long enough for me to wipe up the worst of the #2. It certainly is a challenge, but he is no where near ready to potty train. I’m also not anywhere near ready for that headache heh.

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    • TheMamaNurse

      Oh yes, potty training my daughter was a huge headache and am not looking forward! But every time I have to listen to his ear piercing cries, I pray for a quick and early potty training. Doubt it will happen though! πŸ˜€

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  2. Healing Mama

    This sounds like my son! On more than one occasion he has gotten poop everywhere! It’s a nightmare! These are great tips.

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  3. Samantha @ Momma Wants Java

    Hahahaha! These are all excellent tips, but the last one is my favorite. With twins, we’re really hoping for early potty training. I think we’ll save thousands of dollars every month. (That might be an exaggeration.)

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  4. Lima Smith

    Hahahahaha………………
    “Keep Everything On-Hand”
    i am sharing this post right now !
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  5. Anne Marie

    Hi was wondering why a 8 month old baby always gets upset and starts to cry when he gets his diaper changed and has to take a nap? He seems to associate diaper changes with naps. He crys for about 5mins after putting him down in his crib for a nap. What can I do to eliminate this fear/anxiety he is going through! Thanks!

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