Baby making is exciting at first, but after the first few months of continuous periods and negative pregnancy results, you and your partner may begin to feel defeated. Here are some ways to fast-track your baby-making!
What Can You Do To Fast-Track Your Baby-Making?
1. Have Sex More Often, But Not TOO Often
While it’s important to have sex often to increase your chances of conceiving, it is also important that sperm count is also maintained. While having sex more than once a day can lower a man’s sperm quality, every other day is a good way to make sure sperm count stays high while still giving you lots of chances to conceive. That is a sure-fire way to fast-track your baby-making!
Another reason to not have sex every day is that it is much more likely that couples may experience stress and burn out with scheduling daily sex. However, waiting more than 48 hours may also lead to a low sperm count, so 24-48 hours really seems to be the ideal time between sex.
2. Time It Right
The real trick of becoming pregnant is timing sex with your ovulation cycle. For those with a 28 day cycle, ovulation happens 14 days after your period starts. Mark this date on your calendar and get it on!
If you have an irregular cycle (which a lot of women do!) or have been trying to conceive for a couple of months, then you can track your ovulation by using a basal body temperature chart, checking your cervical mucous or by using an over the counter ovulation test.
However, this monitoring can be quite stressful and you and your partner may just decide to have sex regularly (every other day) throughout the month instead of monitoring your ovulation closely.
3. Have a Good Time Doing It!
There are many reasons why having a good time will fast-track your baby making. For one, taking a light-hearted approach will ensure you and your partner do not become overly stressed.
A few days after beginning to try for our first child, my husband came home and told me a story about a co-worker. He and his wife were having troubles conceiving with their second child, and they had been scheduling their sex. Surprisingly, it wasn’t bothersome to him that they were having trouble conceiving, but rather thought that he had hit the jack pot. This man’s advice to my husband? To also schedule our sex so that conceiving would take longer, thus prolonging frequent scheduled sex.
Men of this world: Do NOT do that this to your partner, unless you have a death wish.
At first I was a bit offended on behalf of all woman-kind, but also admittedly impressed by his ingenuity. He was only poking fun, but I don’t doubt that he was on to something. We all know that stressing does more harm than good.
Baby making is no exception, as a study has shown that psychological stress is harmful to sperm quality, its concentration and ability to fertilize an egg¹. There also is a study with a correlation between female infertility and an increased amount of a stress hormone, but this correlation was not statistically significant.
There are other reasons to enjoy yourself while partaking in baby making. The fluid that women secrete when turned on actually reduce the vaginas pH and help to dissolve the protective coating on sperm, allowing sperm to reach the egg easier.
In addition, it has been found that many lubricants can kill sperm, so there is a benefit to taking the time to become aroused all on your own. Just be careful because saliva has been shown to harm sperm as well. There is some evidence that a woman’s orgasm could increase her chances of becoming pregnant by propelling sperm from the uterus into the Fallopian tubes where fertilization happens.
4. Lie Flat and Tilt Your Pelvis
Gravity really can make a difference when it comes to baby making. Lying flat after sex can make sure that your partner’s sperm get the chance they need to reach their final destination. If you can lie flat and tilt your pelvis with a pillow placed underneath for about half an hour, you can potentially increase your chances of conceiving.
There is no need for crazy leg acrobatics during this (but go ahead if you feel so inclined!), and feel free to remove the pillow and fall asleep if you’re tired. Going pee before sex and getting your partner to bring you a drink can help you avoid having to get up for a post-coital bathroom visit.
5. Get Help Early
Even young, healthy couples have a 1/5 chance of conceiving during any given month², so don’t be too surprised if you and your partner aren’t successful at baby making in the first month of trying. This is especially true if you recently stopped taking a hormonal birth control as it may take some extra time to get it out of your system.
According to a study that tracked couples seeking fertility treatments in Canada, up to 16% of heterosexual couples experienced infertility in 2009-2010, which has doubled since the last study in 1992. This is a scary statistic, but it doesn’t surprise me that infertility rates are climbing. More and more people in our generation are waiting to start having families until they are in their 30’s, and a woman’s fertility decreases after the age of 35. There just doesn’t seem to be enough time to accomplish everything we want to.
If you are over the age of 35 and/or have a condition that could affect your chances of getting pregnant and have been trying to conceive for more than six months, talk to your health care provider about whether you should look into further investigations.
If you are healthy and younger than 35, you should begin thinking of talking to your doctor about testing at the year mark.
I know that you will worry about getting back negative results. However, once you know what the problem is, you will be able to make a plan that will give you the best odds at conceiving the beautiful baby that you and your partner are meant to have.
- Mailman School of Public Health. (2014). “Stress Degrades Sperm Quality”. Retrieved March 2, 2016, from https://www.mailman.columbia.edu/public-health-now/news/stress-degrades-sperm-quality
- Woman’s Health Matters: Women’s College Hospital. (2014). “When Should I Seek Fertility Help?”. Retrieved March 2, 2016, from http://www.womenshealthmatters.ca/a-question-of-health/question-of-health/When-to-seek-fertility-help
- Hyde, J. S., DeLamater, J. D., Byers, E. S. (2006). Understanding Human Sexuality, 3rd Edition.